The phrase that resignates with all of us so often and at many times in our life yet we still manage to keep a hold of toxic relationships, and I am not talking about with a partner but with friendships.
Last year I wrote a blog post about why I feel okay about never having that iconic girl gang and although that post still stays with me in terms of a group of girls in general, I wanted to place emphasis on my life at a turning point, right now. People will come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime and once you figure out which one it is, you will soon realise exactly what to do.
I recently had the courage to quite literally start cutting people off that I didn’t feel were bringing me any happiness and although break ups suck in the best of ways, it was the only way I could move forward with making new friendships. It’s taken me so long to realise this, lengthy days out on my own or walks contemplating but it’s important to come to terms with the situation in hand.
No one ever really talks about break ups in friendships but only with partners. It wasn’t until recently when I received some advice from a friend that helped me to see all the warning signs a lot clearer. She had been through something similar and it wasn’t until she had also cut off friendships that had fizzled out but were, for some reason, still lingering that she realised just exactly why she had done it. Just like a toxic relationship with a partner, the same applies to friends that just don’t show their whole love and gratitude for you. I thought she was really brave, but I took something away from our conversation and started looking at my own friendships that were on the rocks.
It was simple – Cut. Them. Out. I spent so long on my own since permanently moving to London, even feeling extremely lonely at times and I don’t have those old friends to thank for it (and I feel okay saying that!)
Since this has happened, new friends have started popping up into my life, almost as if the old friendships that were taking up my negative energy were now being replaced with new and positive ones. It’s opened up days out, experiences and fun nights out with people that are now on my wave length and I don’t feel one ounce of guilt for it.
I don’t regret any friendships I’ve had in the past because each one has taught me a lot about certain situations or myself but all I can say is that I am extremely happy with my new friendships. I am excited for the year ahead but now with positive energy from those who only want to actually spend time with me.
Have you ever experienced this? What was the outcome for you?