Putting Me First, Saying ‘I Quit’ and Becoming Self-Employed

‘I Quit’ is something I never thought I would ever say, especially not after I went to university with all intentions and eggs in one basket to become a full-time teacher. When I left university I had no idea where my degree was going to lead down, let alone think that I would want to fully pursue my career in education. When I got a job in a school as a TA I jumped for joy…and that is where I have been for the last (almost) 3 years.

The most heartbreaking thing is that when I went back after last summer I had lost all ambition, oompf and drive to actually fulfill that career as an actual teacher. Something in me changed, partly to do with me but do with the place where I actually worked. Okay, so I was kinda teaching anyway, you know, filling in for teachers that couldn’t make it in, having to cover classes when teachers weren’t available etc. But my passion for it had gone. Despite my best efforts to keep a smile on my face and tell myself; “this is what I had set out to do and I would be a failure if I didn’t succeed” I couldn’t help but see other people enjoying life on the ‘other side’ being self-employed, being their own boss and bossing it at the same time.

Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that the grass is always greener on the other side, but I am pretty sure it’s a lot greener over there than the patch I was stood on before I made this decision.

When I went on my Christmas holidays, I went down for a trip to Salisbury and went on a run one morning to clear my head, have a think and get some fresh air. It was around 7am and it was so quiet and peaceful. I stopped to look at the river, take a wintry iPhone snap, and it was then that a voice kicked in my head and said “go for it Lily, why don’t you? I mean…become self-employed?!” I quickly ushered the voice away but it came back again, only this time, stronger. Having then thought about it throughout my entire run, I decided it would actually be feasible. Get a 3 day a week job as a nanny, and have two days to work on my blog and YouTube. Could this actually work? I wondered.

I wanted to sit down and put it into words how I felt…but it took me a while to find the words to say. I made a YouTube video, but pondered whether anyone would actually want to see it, so deleted it. I wrote down notes of things to say, which I actually kept and used for the re-filming of said video for my YouTube channel. I wanted to explain why I have done what I have done, and how good it is going to be for my own sanity and progression in life. I thought it could help others who have been through the same thought processes as I have had over the last few months.

A few months later – not even 4 – and I am sitting here, typing out this blog post and saying that I have done it. I have handed in my notice to my teaching job, taken the plunge, and from July I will be becoming self-employed. For me, and my future professional status it was important for me to complete the current academic year (it looks better on the CV).

I will be my own boss, work my own hours and earn my way through life doing it my way (Que. Frank Sinatra). Just having this one little change in my life has had a massive impact on the way I see things. I can see a brighter future for myself, my career, my blog and my YouTube and I am ever so grateful for all the kind words I have received from readers and viewers.

For a while I doubted myself and inability to do things on my own and boss it, but now I realise that anyone can, if you just set your mind to it. I don’t feel I have failed because I’m using my life skills and knowledge of childcare to take me further, on my own. There is nothing wrong with wanting your life back and wanting what is best for your own mental state and well-being and I urge others to do the same.

“If you don’t have big dreams & goals, you’ll end up working really hard for someone who does.”

Let me know if this sounds familiar to you or you’ve made a sudden career change. It would be great to hear from others who have done the same!



  1. Brenda
    March 10, 2018 / 2:42 pm

    A difficult decision but well done you took the huge step and now the only way is up, you only live once so be happy!

    • lilymcconnell
      March 10, 2018 / 3:06 pm

      Thank you so much Brenda! I really appreciate your kind words – a big step but a fun new adventure! x

  2. Kevin Regan
    March 10, 2018 / 6:46 pm

    You get one live Nice live it your way!!! xxx

    • lilymcconnell
      March 10, 2018 / 7:33 pm

      Thank you!! This is very true!! X

  3. March 19, 2018 / 9:13 pm

    YES YES YES! I’m so happy you’re going to take the plunge. You deserve it. I’m so excited to see what awaits in the next coming months and the rest of the year. I see you going places, and I’m glad you made changes in your life in order to help accelerate things. The last quote you mentioned at the end ““If you don’t have big dreams & goals, you’ll end up working really hard for someone who does.”” speaks so much truth. I wish you all the best of luck (even though you totally don’t need it) xxx

    melina | http://www.ivefoundwaldo.com

    • lilymcconnell
      March 20, 2018 / 8:13 am

      Aww Melina, you are so lovely! Thank you so much for your kind words. I am really excited to see where this year and new chapter takes me. Thank you for being part of it and always supporting my blog and YouTube channel! Yes! That quote has very quickly become one of my favs! A million thank you’s xxx

  4. malgopolka
    March 20, 2018 / 12:40 am

    Thanks for joining! Until next time 😉

  5. March 22, 2018 / 11:36 am

    Hello Lovely

    I loved this, I would love for people to always follow their dreams and do what makes them happy or at least try!!
    Whatever choice you make is the right one because everything happens for a reason

    I hope it all works out for you and you find passion and ambition with the next steps

    Much love, Becky – http://www.eyeful-events.com x x

    • lilymcconnell
      March 22, 2018 / 11:54 am

      Hi Becky,

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I agree – following your dreams and not someone elses is the best way to live the life you want to live! xxx

  6. March 24, 2018 / 2:21 pm

    Great post lovely! It was really great to read this post, as i too quit my job at the end of last year as i just lost my passion & have always wanted to be self employed, so decided to take a few months out as my anxiety was really bad & now looking at going self employed in the next few months & working on my blog lots too as i really love doing it 🙂 i wish you all the best of luck in your new adventure lovely! Take care, Chantelle x

    • lilymcconnell
      March 24, 2018 / 4:38 pm

      Hi Chantelle, That’s so great! It’s such an invigorating feeling knowing you are doing something for yourself and putting you first isn’t it?! I hope you feel calmer soon – going self employed and working on your blog sounds like a fantastic idea! 😀 Thank you for taking the time to read my post with your kind words xxx

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